What happens when he works at Subway .....

I so could not wait to get home and write this blog. Before I write it let me tell you the back story.  I was on the phone with an associate who mentioned that she was talking to a new man. This man treated her good, he was nice and respectful and he took her out. BUT....yes there was a but and I waited patiently for it.  I could only imagine what the "dealbreaker" would be....was he a convict? Was he an abuser? Did he live with his mama? She eventually took me out of my misery and said "Girl I cannot talk to him because he works at Subway". Huh? Really? My response was well at least the brotha has a job. Seriously at least he is taking care of himself and not laying up on some woman's couch depending on her for everything or worse on the corner slanging or even worse knocking people over the head and taking their purse. Sure he cant buy you a Lexus or a Gucci or whatever the hell else you want but he's nice .... he TREATS YOU GOOD! Shouldnt that be taken into consideration?

Apparently nowadays no it shouldnt. I've met plenty of women like my associate and not enough women like myself. I've met women who only want a man who is capable and willing to "take care of them". They want a man who drives a nice car, wears nice clothes, can pay all of their bills with a 6 figure income and a generous hand. The problem with these types of women is that more than often, they have nothing to bring to the table. They are quick to turn their nose up at the man who works at Subway but bitch you're working at Burger King.  Money drives everything in their life and I hate to tell them but all of the money in the world wont make you happy. All of the money in the world wont make a person love you, respect you or cherish you.  I'd take the man who works at Subway and treats me right over the man who works at the law firm and is beating my ass on a daily basis, cheating or acting crazy. Personally I just dont think a job is a major factor like that. But like I said, there aren't a lot of women like me.

I work 8-3. I dont need a man to support me. See that's what I went to college for. Thats what I bust my ass for on a daily basis ....  TO SUPPORT MYSELF! Anything a man does for me is purely additional. Hell the way I see it if he works at Subway he should be able to hook a chick up with a sub. I love Subway! lol Thats just me though. I'm not picky like that. If you can offer a good conversation and treat me good without asking me for a damn thing, you're good with me.

I'm sure that this has been happening for a long time. I've always heard women talk about money but now that I am the mother to a son I pay more attention. My son is at the age where he likes girls and I see that when it comes to dating I'm starting to look at things from a male point of view more often. These type of women are the type of women that I want my son to stay away from! You dont need to be with anyone who 1. is not bringing anything to the table 2. is looking for you to support her because you're not her mom or dad or 3. someone who is merely looking at dollar signs. I want my son with someone who can stand on her on two feet (like his momma :) and is interested in my son for WHO he is and not WHAT he has or HOW much he makes.

So long story made short, my associate says she wont be talking to ole boy anymore. She is basically back at square one.......and someone who probably would've been a good fit for her is now out of the door...... out of the door because his job title just did not make the cut *shrugs* oh well. I'm hungry.  Subway anyone?

Happy Birthday Florida A&M University!!!!!!

On October 3rd 124 years ago Florida A&M University began. If you dont know, I truly love my alma mater.  Not only am I a Rattler but I am also someone who is very proud of my alma mater. In my mind and heart, WE truly are the BEST!

Believe it or not I grew up as a Wildcat. My father is a graduate of Bethune Cookman. Believe it or not when I was a senior in high school my dream was to attend Florida State University. I still remember when I got my acceptance letter. I was so happy. My father told me that I could attend Florida A&M or Bethune .... those were my only two options. His baby girl was going to a HBCU whether she wanted to or not. I know that may seem kind of harsh ... I remember shedding several tears about it BUT 11 years later I am thankful for my dad. Me attending Florida A&M University was one of the BEST things to ever happen to me.

Florida A&M is more than a school. Thats something that people who did not attend the university will never understand. Its more than a school. Its a way of life. Thats evident in the love, respect and devotion that its alumni have in it. Famu alumni are some of the best people that I've met since leaving Tallahassee. No matter where I've gone I've been in the midst of Rattlers. I remember driving down the street in Atlanta and a lady rolling down her window and saying GO RATTLERS. I remember attending a Buccaneer game and coming in contact with an "old" Rattler. We talked as if we had known each other for years.

Florida A&M has been a trailblazer for the past 124 years. The band, the different degree programs, the dedicated alumni......which Hbcu was the first to trend on twitter? Famu. Which band was selected to play in France? Famu's Marching 100. Which school was named the best HBCU in the US?  Famu.  I could go on and on and on with Famu's different accolades but you get the point.

There's a reason why the students and alumni love and cherish this university that sits on the highest of hills in Tallahassee. There's a reason why if you were to skim down the newsfeed on my facebook page you'd find Rattler alumni with Rattler themed avatars in celebration of the university's founding date. There's a reason why if you searched Famu on twitter you'd find 1000s of alumni confessing their love for the university. Simply put....its the best. Happy birthday to Florida A&M University!!!!! Thank you for all that you've done, are doing and will continue to do. We love you :)